Can an Old Dog Learn New Tricks?

“Change is not possible. How can someone who has lived years and years with the same mentality and behaviors change? An old dog cannot learn new tricks.”

This is part of a conversation that I had with a dear friend recently. She found it hard to believe that an adult could change their behaviors and their way of thinking. She had been dealing with difficult situations in her marriage and was sure that there was no hope. She believed that her and her husband are who they are and would never change.

Change isn’t easy. My friend is partly right. Change is difficult, especially if we are trying to do it on our own. But change is possible. In my book, Through God’s Eyes, I talk about taking ownership of our choices. A person who has a victim mentality believes that life happens to them. They believe that they are at the mercy of the world. They don’t think they can do anything to change their ‘lot’ in life. A victor, however, believes that they have the power to make choices—and they assume the responsibility and consequences of those choices.

I want to share with you 3 things that can help you think differently:

(1) Identify one area where you need to change. Take an honest and raw look at yourself. Is there an area in your life that needs to change? Baby steps—I’m sure there’s more than one area in your life that you would like to change. For now, let’s focus on one.

(2) Admit that you can’t do it on your own. We weren’t meant to do life alone. Even the disciples were sent two by two. You’ve already identified the one area of your life where you need to work on. Now, it’s time to find someone that can keep you accountable. Could it be your spouse? A friend? A church friend? Your pastor? Having someone that can hold you accountable can increase your chances of succeeding. Take that step and give the person a call. Let them know where you’re struggling and ask for their help.

(3) Acknowledge your need for a savior. Who knows you best but the ONE who created you? The wonderful thing about having a relationship with God is that he knows us. He knows our struggle, our weaknesses, and our imperfections. Yet, he loves us still. Not only does he love us, but he walks with us during our journey.

Yes, change is hard but not impossible. You CAN transition from living a life of victimhood to a life of victory!